title: Finding Mr. Right

Assalaamu Alaikum wa Ramatullahi wa Barakatuh

I know how dismal the whole marriage prospects can be for us single sisters! It can be slim pickins out there! I have had many negative experiences attempting to find Mr. Right. I try (not very hard though) to be patient and not be so desperate that I will end up making a ginormous mistake. I have asked sisters to ask their husband’s to be my Wali, gone on Muslim matramony sites, and IM chatting. Nothing has worked so far.

There have been many times I thought things may be compatible, but subhanAllah was I wrong! Some brothers wanted to get citizenship, others wanted a 2nd + wife for their own sexual pleasure and were not afraid to admit it. I had numerous messages professing their undying love for me, even though it was the 1st contact ever and I had yet to reply! For obvious reasons I removed myself from all online marriage sites. Now I do realize alhamdulilah that there are many sisters who have been guided to successful marriages through these kind of sites. MashaAllah wa Allahu Akbar! I am just speaking from experience so sisters know that they may encounter brothers like the ones I described.

Now though, since I am a revert with no mahram or Wali, I am still single. I began looking for a husband shortly after I took my shahadah, which was almost 3-years-ago alhamdulilah! Since I am a mother to 3 kids, I do know what I am missing! I get really lonely and it is very frustrating at times. Alhamdulilah though for this test Allah has given me. InshaAllah it will be a way to increase sabr and erase some sins. InshaAllah all the Ummah will be granted a wonderful spouse who is pious and will guide each other in Islam.