Life is busy, learn how to slow down, move on and remember God's blessings by looking at the clouds.

3 Life Lessons from the Clouds

Everything that God creates comes from benevolent sources, which are apparent to the minds that think. Sadly, more often than not, humans are immersed in this temporary life, running errands and meeting deadlines that we hardly allocate time to adore Allah’s beautiful and educational lessons. As unlikely as it may sound, there are lessons for us to learn with good reasons, from as near as around us to as far as from the other side of the globe. And yes, they are tailor-made to fit our daily encounters.

Life on earth is too hectic and we often stop to catch our breath in an attempt to keep up with its demands. It is rather difficult to regain motivation in the middle of a crowded setting that is the decadent society. When that happens, it’s a sign for us to look elsewhere to find the strength, to reason with our duties. So, what we could do is look up to the sky and learn from His magnificent creation, the clouds.

“It is Allah who made for you the earth a place of settlement and the sky a ceiling and formed you and perfected your forms and provided you with good things. That is Allah, your Lord; then blessed is Allah , Lord of the worlds.” (Qur’an, 40:64)

What can we benefit from observing the puffy clouds?

  1. Life is a Transient

We are aware by now that nothing is this world is permanent, not even our problems. But the temptation of Dunya (temporary world) can be so strong that we let the fact slip our mind. So, just as much as we need to have regular intake of food for the body, we need food for our soul too, which is motivation. It is not possible to attend seminars or seek professional help every time we are in distress and our loved ones can sometimes be unavailable to us. Out of reach for human advice and alone, we are forced to seek alternatives to stabilize our emotion.

So, try this approach for a change; isolate ourselves, then look up to the sky and watch how the clouds never stay at one place more than few seconds, perhaps less. In some situations, they move even faster when pushed by the wind and storms. Even when the weather is nice, they still move on. Reflecting on the scenery truly inspires our soul and reminds us that life is short and changes are inevitable. We have to be adaptive and keep up with the pace stated by God. It’s worthy to mention that the clouds teach us not to be afraid of changes, but instead embrace and pursue them.

Just like God make the clouds stay afloat in the sky, He will not allow us to fall out of place.

  1. God loves Us

Allah’s love is prevalent and it envelops the world like a warm blanket. It also comes in many forms such as family, friends and sustenance. There are countless provisions He has prepared for us way before we were born and all we need to do is look and we shall find. Similarly, one of the most meaningful blessings He mercifully bestows on us is the shade. Allah’s love is apparent in the creation of the clouds in a way that they function to shadow us from the scorching sun. Especially for travellers and workers who work directly in the middle of the heat. Allah could leave us struggle on our own, finding ways to lessen the heat, but His love is so vast He provides the giant clouds which act like a giant umbrella to cool us down a bit.

If only we knew exactly how much heat the clouds had saved us from, SubhanAllah (praise be to Allah). Chances are, we would be speechless and only tears might express our thankfulness. Therefore, from now onwards, in the midst of feeling unloved, look up to the sky and we will see unconditional love among those clouds.

  1. Kingdom of Heaven is beyond the Fragile Clouds

It’s a great resuscitation after a long day, to disconnect from horizontal view and to start refreshing our eyes by looking at the sky. The heart deserves to know that as wide as the earth is, it is still incomparable to the kingdom of Heaven; another lesson from the clouds. Whatever we desire will appear in front of us immediately, with trees lowering their branches so the fruits are reachable by us. SubhanAllah (praise be to Allah)! Most importantly, the life in Jannah is permanent and peaceful. Misunderstanding, competition, dispute, jealousy and hatred are out of sight, being replaced by love, only love. That is the kingdom of Heaven, located somewhere beyond the fragile clouds. Isn’t it promising?

Physiologically, we are inclined to feel more invigorated after some good rest. So are our mind and emotion. Dissociating from the pressure around us and connecting with God’s reminder about a relaxing life in Jannah surely is an effective method. That, God willing, can be achieved through contemplation and belief that there is life more to the one we have now; in Jannah.

So, look up and watch the clouds, for that is the nearest reassurance of Jannah.

Life is busy, learn how to slow down, move on and remember God's blessings by looking at the clouds.

We can still attain tranquillity simply by staring at the clouds blankly, there are times when we are overwhelmed by a lot of stuff and we can’t engage in deep reflection. In a way, staring at the clouds can be a method to empty our mind. So, try it!

Other than the clouds, there are wonderful creations of God that we can understand and relate to our lives such as trees, rivers and mountains which are mentioned several times in the Quran.

Don’t we all feel blessed? Alhamdulillah (praise be to God).

How else can we use nature to strengthen our connection to Allah?

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Personality of Hijab

There is more to being an ideal Muslim woman than her Islamic compliant clothing; her personality. In other words, a woman is in need of two kinds of hijab (cover) and both are equally essential. The first is outward hijab and the second is the inward hijab. So, what is an inward hijab?

Shyness (Haya’)

Sisters, let’s face it. We attract attention just by being women, even when we are not trying. Everywhere we go, we are observed by people around us, mostly male strangers. It is therefore vital to watch our every step and move by applying praiseworthy manners as a personality embellishment.

Shyness is paramount and the absence of it has the power to promote misconduct and create problems that didn’t exist in the first place. Unfortunately, the world today has become too liberal for anyone’s good where shyness is rarely practiced. In fact, it is perceived as a person’s social weakness while free intermingling is practiced worldwide.

It is worth noting that interaction between men and women is not completely disallowed. Under some circumstances like in a workplace and educational institution where it is necessary to have a direct contact, it is permissible as long as it does not transgress the limit stated by Allah.

Having said that, let us take a thorough look into the elements of shyness as our inward hijab that is to be donned in the presence of public, especially non-Mahrams (marriageable men). 

Hijab of the eyes

An ideal Muslimah controls her gaze and abstains herself from making inappropriate eye contact with the non-mahrams, be it alone or in the presence of a crowd. Even if she is sitting with her girlfriends and a cute guy happens to pass by, the whole group should lower their gaze in shyness. Just because the guy does not look back, it is not a license to stare at him. A good Muslimah always reminds herself that Allah is watching her behaviour and so she must behave.

Sadly, in today’s case, some Muslim women are not serious in guarding their eyes due to influences from the corrupted way of thinking and weak link with the Islamic understanding. Instead of looking away when they see the opposite gender, they collectively stare at the man and giggle. Some even dare to tease, or should I say, flirt with him! Masha Allah. Islam strongly advises against unnecessary contact with the males even in a needed situation, let alone in a paltry one. If there is no requirement to look up, it is best to lower the gaze in the remembrance of Allah.

Hijab of the mouth

Silence is not just a wise exchange for swearing and insulting, it is also a perfect replacement for gossips and enticing speeches. In Islam, utterances represent self-image and every word that comes out will be recorded by the dutiful angels down to the last detail. So, an ideal Muslimah is wise in picking her words. She runs them by her mind before she speaks, knowing too well that obscenity displeases her Creator and stains her personality. To wear the hijab of the mouth is also an indication for a Muslim woman to refrain herself from engaging in small talks, laughs and jokes with Non-Mahrams. If she must interact, she avoids using attractive voice and keeps the conversation succinct. She also refutes the popular belief that women have to be friendly with the male counterparts or they’ll end up alone for the rest of their lives. What a false notion! Such fear won’t exist in the mind of a pious Muslimah since she is rest assured by the promise of Allah.

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Hijab of the mind

Is it uncanny to think that the mind needs a hijab? Similar to the other visible body parts, the inward entities such as heart and mind require some concealment. Donning this type of hijab proves to be amongst the hardest task since humans can’t simply shut down the brain. Humans think more than they hear, speak, smell as well as sense. So, an ideal Muslimah trains her mind to focus on what’s beneficial and divert from harmful thoughts like the images of non-Mahrams, forbidden relationships and people in revealing attires. In any way that she gets distracted, she immediately refocuses. She fills up her mind with the Quran and useful knowledge that can formulate positive thoughts towards reaching her goals and brings her closer to God.

Hijab of the behaviour

This hijab is subtly attached to the hijab of the mind. It receives instructions from the mind which is portrayed in one’s behaviour. Enough to say that a God-conscious Muslimah is aware of her presentation in the presence of Non-Mahrams. She realises that wearing decent clothes is supposed to be harmonized with decent attitudes. Meaning, an ideal Muslimah keeps her distance with her male companions as well as strangers and avoid bodily contact on every level. She declines handshakes and says No to being alone with a non-Mahram in a secluded area, unless there’s no possibility for corruption and no lustful desire involved. If needed, she’ll bring along her Mahram or holds the meeting out in the open.

Sisters,

Our social attitudes construct the perceptions of others about us. While we are not responsible of how they perceive us, we are totally responsible for what we give them to think about. In admittance, we have witnessed the ugly truth that evil is dominating the world by depriving especially women of the feelings of modesty and shame through an insertion of negative connotation into the word shyness. It is time to retrieve the foundation we have ditched for a while by balancing modernization and Islamic practices.

What can we do to stay in moderation?

  • Pray to Allah that He makes us among those who shield our pride with shyness. Also, straighten out our intention. I.e. what is the reason we go out?
  • Double-check our attire and make sure it is not flashy and our makeup is not extravagant because we do not dress for attention. We dress for protection.
  • Bring along the Quran or any other book to help us lower our gaze between times. Interestingly, reading is a productive distraction.
  • Choose to hang out with friends based on piety not popularity. They will make us voluntarily shy away from useless conversations.
  • Be empathetic towards men. It is tough enough for them today, having been surrounded by women who refuse to cover themselves appropriately, online and offline. Let’s not fan the flames.
  • Be steadfast in practicing Allah’s rules. Despite the reality of today where most people we know are too ashamed to hold on to Islam. Do not in any way give in to temptation just because it is conventional and on-trend.
  • Enough with the dubious fairy tales. Instead, study the stories of prophets (peace be upon all of them) intensively, since there are incidences and situations of their times relatable to our lives. Their journeys are the best of examples. In this case (shyness as a hijab), we may find the story between Prophet Musa (peace be upon him) and the daughters of Prophet Shuaib (peace be upon him) a helpful edification (Quran, Al-Qasas, verse 22-25).

Allah promises glad tidings for those who are modest and watchful of their actions for the fear of transgression.

Surely the Muslim men and the Muslim women, the believing men and the believing women, the devout men and the devout women, the truthful men and the truthful women, the patient men and the patient women, the humble men and humble women, the charitable men and the charitable women, the fasting men and the fasting women, the men who guard their chastity and the women who guard their chastity, and the men who remember Allah much and the women who remember Allah much – for all those, Allah has prepared forgiveness and a great reward. [Al-Ahzab; 35].

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How to Love Your Job from an Islamic Standpoint

Oftentimes you force yourselves into doing something you don’t even like. For instance, your job. It is rare to find one person who sincerely fancies handling the same task daily. Be that as it may, as a Muslim, you realize that certain situations are inevitable and that responsibility is an obligation one needs to fulfil. So, when it comes to facing your duty, you should know by heart that there is more than one way to go about it to ensure happiness before, during and after the completion of the assignments.

How can the way a person look at things makes a difference in his or her working time thus producing fruitful results?

How to love your job

To this Allah has already prepared an answer:

“Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves”. [Ar-Ra’d: 11]

This verse indicates an entitlement of freedom in choosing, bestowed by Allah for humans, Alhamdulillah (praise be to God). That means, you have to do something in order to change the way you feel about work. Otherwise, before you know it, you’ll be retired and still miserable. Now is as good time to start as any.

To note, changes in this context focus on the present job and not suggesting to look for a new one. In other words, you can find ways to experience fulfillment in your job that you have right now.

Here are some tips that you may find workable:

Straighten Out Your Intention of Working

“Verily, all actions are but driven by intention and for everyone is what he intended.” [Bukhari and Muslim]

Most people neglect the interconnection between their inner thought and productivity. Intention, in fact, is the anchor of one’s mission. It’s the navigator. That being said, taking it lightly can perilously impede the progress of a job. In order to relate to your task, it is suggested to re-evaluate the reason(s) of why you’re doing it. Is it because of money, convenience or status? Truth is, objectives that exclude Allah from the equation are short-lived. Once they are achieved, you’ll feel lost. Remind yourself frequently that what you do is only because of Allah and nothing else. That you are doing it not for other people and not expecting to be rewarded by none other than God Himself. In sha Allah (God willing), you’ll feel more contented with your task and your enthusiasm lasts longer.

Perform Night Prayers

Atha al-Khurasani stated that “when a person gets up to pray tahajjud (one of the night prayers), he will feel calm the next morning”. Tweet this

Night prayers are special. Despite lack of sleep, you’ll feel more energized than ever. It builds your sincerity because waking up at night is private thus entitles you to deserve Allah’s praises. That sincerity can be channeled into your attitudes to finish your work progressively. Upon gaining the pleasure of Allah, He opens up the door of your sustenance generously. Plus, in seeing such good results, it may convince you to liking your job. So, make a plan with yourself to sleep early and ask Allah to awake you in the middle of night to spend some meaningful time with Him. A word of advice, when you’re awake because of a crying baby or a need to use the bathroom, don’t go back to sleep right after. That could be Allah’s way of waking you up for a night prayer. Thence, take ablution and pray.

Read Al-Qur’an

Reading Al-Qur’an as a start of the day truly creates a difference in your opinions about your job. Tweet this It bears thoughtful reminders consist of happy news, stern warnings as well as relatable lessons for each individual:

“And We have certainly diversified [the contents] in this Qur’an that mankind may be reminded…” [Al-Isra; 41]

As a Muslim and a believer, it elevates your motivation through verses that emphasize on rewards and happy news. On the other hand, it admonishes you to be grateful of what you have as opposed to thousands of people out there who are still jobless. In addition, it strengthens your will to work harder to emulate the ancestors who were happier and more successful in a less modern setting.

Abstain from Small Complaints Even Jokingly

You would think it is normal to grumble because it’s a cultural norm, but such behaviour has a silent effect in your productivity. Tweet this It can also indicate obliviousness to Allah’s blessings.

“And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]; but if you deny, indeed, My punishment is severe”. [Ibrahim; 7]

Small complaints to a likeable job are like flies circling a clean food. You can’t reach the food until the flies are cleared. Islam instructs the Muslims to be prudent in word selection and Islam is right. Words, once out, you can’t take them back and they are transformed into invocations. If a pray is granted, let it not be out of complaints and silly jokes. Alas, most people do it all the time, addressing complaints in a sarcastic, whiny manner until it becomes habitual. As a result, you’ll end up feeling wearied and unmotivated. While jokes are not entirely prohibited, there are limits to making them. If something is bothering you, speak up about it politely or remain silent as a sign of a believer. When you stop feeling sorry for yourself and assigning blames, you’ll notice an improvement in the quality of your work and the time spent is genuinely valued.

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Embrace Optimism and Share with the Others

Some suggestions instruct you to cut the cord with negative people. However, it is not easy to stop hanging with the people you work with, not to mention it is against Islamic teaching to break the established rapport. Therefore, what you can do is cultivate positive thoughts by demonstrating them in front others. Waiting for them to change their mind set would be futile, so you have to be first to act on it. You may also initiate pleasant conversations and creatively find a way to digress from controversial issues. In addition, feelings are known to be contagious, so spread a smile and practice kindness.

Umar (may Allah be please with him) said, “Generosity is an easy thing. It is a smiling face and kind words.”

People around you will pick up the positive energy from you. Thus, a job satisfaction can be obtained collectively in a happy environment. Who knows, one day, all of you may actually look forward to coming to work!

Challenge Yourself

How, you asked? You can do it by learning something new at your job. Boredom emanates from routine activities and you need some novelty to keep your job interesting. In other words, you are under-challenged. An optimist will see that as an opportunity to acquire something new, for an improvement.

It is possible if you venture out and engage in new skills that may be useful for your job position. Keeping it busy with new knowledge may distract you from thinking how much you dislike your job. At times when you are available, find something that can spark your interest and you’ll survive. The real enemy is not having too many things to do, it’s doing nothing.

A wise person fully utilizes his time because he doesn’t want to be among the losers:

“There are two blessings which many people lose: (They are) health and free time.”  [Bukhari].

Dear brothers and sisters,

It might be overwhelming to try out all these tips at once causing you to feel frustrated after few days diving into them. The best is to elect one that you’re inclined to do and keep it consistent. Insya Allah (God willing), you’ll witness some good transitions within yourself. Remember, every journey to making changes begins with the first step.

I sincerely pray that you find these suggestions helpful. All the best!

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Beginner’s Guide to Connecting with Qur’an

The Quran is the only ‘textbook’ reliable for everyone from all generations, with zero contradictions. Irrespective of who you are and how severe the problem you’re facing is, the Quran has the perfect remedy. Click to tweet

One ayah (verse) provides the standardized answer to all the readers, but it manages to tackle humans’ individual issue through different perspectives that eventually creates impacts that foster the individual growth.

In other words, it is like the Quran speaks to you exclusively.

It makes you feel exceptionally special and Subhanallah (praise be to Allah), that is enough evidence that the Quran came from Allah and He gave the humans His words as a symbol of timeless love, compassion and guidance.

However, not everyone is able to experience the flawless beauty of the Quran. Before any of you lose hope and think that the Quran is not for you, you should know that the decision is on you. This is because there is only one rule. It comes down to whether or not you fancy the Quran’s company. So, do you want to get to know the Quran and make it your lifelong companion? Yes?

Desired qualities of Al-Quran’s true friend:

Don’t be sad should you not find any of these inside you. Remember, even those who are in the advanced stage with the Quran now, were once beginners. It is not too late to nurture such traits and have them etched in your heart and ingrained in your lifestyle:

Clean

If someone is giving you a gift, will you accept it with clean hands or otherwise? What about you, are you going to hand over something special to someone whose hands are dirty? Well, your answer is a reflection to this situation. Al-Quran is a precious gift for anyone who is clean. In this case, one has to be clean physically, mentally as well as spiritually. Allah’s instruction pertaining to touching His Book is conspicuous in this one ayah:

“Verily, it is a noble Quran. In a Register well-protected. None touch it except the purified” [Al-Waqiah; 77-79].

So, what’s recommended is to take wudhu’ (ablution) for it cleanses one’s physical and then perform a repentance prayer to purify the soul. Once the dark spots in one’s heart scrapped off, God willing, the words of Allah will easily penetrate the mind to reach the heart.

Willing

Have you heard of the idiom where there is a will there is a way? You can have the Quran at your disposal as long as you’re willing to engage in the relationship, with full commitment. The efforts however, include allocation of your time that demand sacrifice. You need to reduce the time spent on worldly activities or even detach from them for the sake of learning the Quran. For examples, parties, shopping, watching movies and bad old habits like gossiping, cursing, idling etc. Because Al-Quran does not get along with the aforementioned ‘friends’ as well as ‘hobbies’. It also includes you finding a teacher to improve on recitation, or Quran buddy/buddies to help sustain the motivation. Glad tidings for those who want, for Allah has promised to guide them on a straight path:

“As for those who strive in Our cause, We shall surely guide them to Our Ways. Indeed Allah is with those who do good”. [Al-Ankabut;69]

Consistent

Adding a small portion every day is more efficient than a random increase. Simply, it is recommendable to read the Quran one page everyday rather than to read one whole chapter at one go and unscheduled. Analogically, the flowers in a garden must be watered regularly or they’ll die due to insufficient nutrients.

Prophet (pbuh) loved perpetual deeds and kindness as evidenced by the hadith below narrated by his loving wife, ‘Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her):

“Do good deeds properly, sincerely and moderately and know that your deeds will not make you enter Paradise, and that the most beloved deed to Allah’s is the most regular and constant even though it were little.” [Bukhari, Muslim].

At the risk of having your days ahead of you and you fail to find the time to open the Quran, you can substitute with the short surahs (passages) that you’ve already memorized like ‘3Qul’ (A-Ihklas, Al-Falaq and An-Nas). The surahs can be recited at your convenience; while driving, cooking, doing laundry or in between tasks.

Patient

The first step is often the hardest because you do not possess the skills required. Be patient. You know better that success neither comes easily nor fast. But you must begin somewhere or you’ll never achieve the dream. Learning the Quran is an extensive journey and time is the essential ingredient needed. Click to tweet Insha Allah (God willing) anyone who’s patient will be granted enough time amidst your busy lives to stay connected with His Book because Allah favours the people of the Quran.

Patience ties in with consistency. It is better to know the Quran from day to day, as a constant contact will strengthen your relationship with the Quran and by extension, the Creator. Patience is like drops of water accumulated in thousands of years to make the mighty ocean.

For you who are struggling with the learning, Prophet (pbuh) shared words of encouragement:

“Such a person who recites the Qur’an and masters it by heart, will be with the noble righteous scribes (in Heaven). And such a person exerts himself to learn the Qur’an by heart, and recites it with great difficulty, will have a double reward”. (Muslim).

Best times to read the Quran

  • At Fajr- Morning is ideal for Al-Quran recitation and the knowledge absorbed lasts longer. The mind is considered empty and reading the words of Allah before anything else is the perfect stimuli for a productive day. Train the mind to reach for Al-Quran before your mobile phone because Allah’s message is inarguably the most important. In fact, it helps you in responding to people’s messages thereafter.
  • At night- Before you sleep, again you give priority to the Quran by detaching from the worldly contacts and focus on the relationship with His Book. Reading it after a tiring day relaxes the mind and body simultaneously. You feel safe and reassured at one side; alert and reminded on the other.

You may start slow at your own pace because it is not a competition with the others. Gradually, when you have improved, which you will, you are free to pick up a faster pace. Be humble and avoid preconception along the line.

So, again I ask, do you want the Quran to be your best of friend forever?

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Higher Education for Single Women: Yay or Nay?

Let's talk about the idea that single women will ruin their chances of getting married by pursuing a higher education. What does Islam tell us about this attitude? - www.MuslimasOasis.com

I was at my grandmother’s house celebrating Eid with my relatives on my mother’s side and the house was full, so I decided to accompany my nephew playing outside the house. Half an hour later, the night was approaching and my aunt excused herself and family because they wanted to go back home. She and I had a short but profound dialog which inspired me to share the content with the others.

          Aunt: What are you planning to do after this now that you’re unemployed?

          Myself: InshaAllah (God willing), maybe I will pursue my study.

         Aunt: Again? Hmm, that should be even harder to find a husband.

        Myself: No aunt, education is not the reason I am still single.

       Aunt: Yes dear, there is a relation between high education and difficulty in finding a soul mate. Never mind, I have to go, take care.

That was it, they left and there I was, standing and thinking about what she just said which then prompted me to wonder, if it’s true, why would we ask of Allah to increase us in knowledge in our prayer? Is there supposed to be a limitation for women, especially single women?

Unsurprisingly, that was not the first hesitation directed towards me and I know too well, until I have secured at least a prospective candidate, it will not be the last. One good thing about it is that this time, I did not take it too hard, nor was I offended. Perhaps because I have aged. It could be true, as evidenced by my sulking behavior in my younger days and I was overly sensitive upon responding to certain questions and the date of my wedding used to be one of them. Another one was a hurtful remark “It it your high qualification that sends men running”.

Is it true? Is permitting women to further study a mistake? Does having a degree reduce women’s chance of getting married? I used to think they were true but not anymore and I will lay down my justifications:

Knowledge is a right as well as duty for men and women

When Jibreel (alaihis salam) was sent down to our Prophet (pbuh) while he was in seclusion in the Hira cave to designate him the Prophethood, he was instructed to repeat one word after the angel; Iqra’ (read). That one word was the first revelation for Muhammad (pbuh) and in that word lies a deep lesson for his entire Ummah (nation). Allah orders us to read because that is how we acquire knowledge which constructs our wisdom. More importantly, it does not specify the right for just men to have this privilege. The verse (Iqra’) was in general and not aimed at any specific gender. An implication can be drawn here that education is also women’s right. In addition, Islam does not limit women education to only at a beginner’s level, so women are entitled to freedom for learning any knowledge on any level we desire, both religious and secular.

Moreover, Anas narrated that the Prophet (pbuh) said, “Search for knowledge is a sacred duty imposed on every Muslims”. The Hadith unequivocally indicates that learning is not just a right, but also a responsibility required for both men and women. In this case, women who are educated have fulfilled if not all, some of our responsibilities by devoting ourselves to knowledge pursuit.

A Wise Woman Creates an Intelligent Future Generation

It sounds impossible, is it not? Well, nothing is impossible if it is permitted by Allah. In one opinion, it is more important to educate women than men because the benefits from the outcome of knowledgeable women will go for miles. Brigham Young (1801-1877) said:

‘You educate a man; you educate a man. You educate a woman; you educate a generation’.

The reason is clear and it has been staring us in the face for a while now. A woman is the first teacher to her children and the fact can be a privilege as well as a huge responsibility. An early education at home will have the highest influence on children’s future. Indeed they will grow up and make friends which then expose them to a different kind of influence. But for what is worth, the knowledge that they acquired from their mother are going to have a permanent abode in their mind and heart. By providing children the right education, ensures positive progression and development in a family, subsequently the society and the nation. The goal is out of reach if the mother is not knowledgeable.

Based on that argument, it is imperative for all women to equip ourselves with knowledge as much as we can, and believe it or not, it is best done while we are still single. We have more free time before marriage because we are not occupied with daily routines as a wife and a mother. The task will magnify for working mothers. So, in this case, being single gives us an opportunity to read, understand, internalize beneficial information to better ourselves in preparation for the best future upbringing.

Education Equals to No Husband: It is a Myth

Most women from today’s generation do not seem to fall for this presumption. However, because this belief has been passed from one generation to another, it somehow finds its way into the mind of most single women today. It is distracting to women’s emotion especially those who have entered the ‘3series’ (a witty label for those who are between 30-39 years old) when people around are jumping into conclusion and blaming the high qualification for still being single. That is untrue. If it were, Allah would have prohibited all women from pursuing their education to a higher level and to be satisfied with just basic foundation. But such command is neither spotted in His book (The Quran) nor in any of the Prophet’s (pbuh) Hadiths. So, single women across the globe, it is crucial to our cognitive and affective functions that we double-check every so-called ‘theories’ pertaining late marriage with only reliable sources; The Quran and Hadiths. By doing so, it will spare us unnecessary apprehension. Allah says in the Quran, passage 5 verse 92 to:

Obey Allah, and obey the Messenger, and beware (of evil)…

As a reflection, this verse reiterates the urge to only rely on the words of Allah and His Messenger (pbuh). Beliefs and traditions that are not in compliance with the Islamic rulings and teachings are best discarded from our mind and life. In fact, there is an unseen danger in making presumption, so is in believing it, not to mention it is disliked by our Creator.

At the end of the day…

Allah Gives Promises, People Give Opinion

I am sure that a promise sounds more reliable than an opinion does for all of us. Why then do we let people’s forecast determine, to an extent navigate our lives? It is too risky. Rather, it is advisable to stop listening to people’s predictions because they themselves can’t see their own future. We need to embrace our singlehood today by exercising positive thinking, practicing a healthy lifestyle and collecting knowledge as much as we want, through every possible medium. Who knows, come tomorrow, we have to bid farewell to it and welcome a new life; a life as a wife, resulting in major changes in our present schedule. We do not want to become one of those who wish they had done and tried everything while they were single, don’t we?

Therefore…

Snap Out of It, Chin Up and Get Out There!

That being said, we as single women need to get our act together, instead of squandering in self-pity waiting for the ‘prince charming’ to ask us in hand for marriage. Accept this fate wholeheartedly as a ‘bonus’ time for ourselves to improve our relationship with Allah, parents, family, friends and society. An ideal Muslim woman is ought to engage in healthy relationships with the aforesaid people which can positively result in a more friendly and radiant us. Expanding our network in a ‘halal’ (permissible in Islam) way will teach us new ideas which we never thought to bother before, hence it expands our knowledge.

Trust me on this, with knowledge comes confidence. Once we feel more confident about ourselves, the positive energy is disseminated to people we are interacting with around us, and might attract that ‘someone’, we’ll never know. So take the chance for whatever the outcome will look like, we have got nothing to lose. Besides, more and more men are interested in knowing women who are educated. The world today is not the same as before.

Before the curtain is closed, it is a relief to know that…

There is a Key for Every Lock

Allah has promised about how He makes everything and everyone is pairs as substantiated by the verse below and a few more related verses in the Quran:

And of everything We have created pairs, that you may remember (the Grace of Allah). [Adh-Dhariyat 51:49]

This Quranic verse outlines that everything including both living and non-living things are created in pairs. Even our universe has its counterpart named ‘Black Holes’.  Hence being calm instead of hasty will save us from falling into a lifelong regret. Rest assured that there is one perfect match created to complete us and when the time comes, which it certainly will, we will see all of our efforts are meant to be redeemed for that special moment, in the blessings of Allah. For all we know, education could be the platform leading to a blissful marriage.

Be that as it may, we must control our vigor and be emotionally aware and remember that freedom to choose is still in our hands, so be realistic and focused in our modus operandi and decision making.

Finally, while we are on our journey searching for the one Whom Allah has created perfectly for us, we must not forget to consistently revive our faith and take knowledge with us. Also, we would abstain ourselves from chasing after what we want but disapproved by Allah. Always and forever believe this; If Allah matters to us, we matter more to Him. This journey is worth every sweat and tears, and is definitely worth the wait…

P/S: It is not a mistake to take ourselves to the next level in education…and the next…and the next. Allah knows best~