On Aasiya Hassan’s Murder by Naazish YarKhan

When I was deciding on a husband, one of my criteria was that my spouse be the kind of guy who’d never hit me. A calm temperament was absolutely essential. My husband claims I had low standards. “Wouldn’t you expect personal safety in any marriage?” He teased. Growing up in... 
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From the Coporate World to the Kitchen

First, let me start that this is true for me, and probably for many, but not for all. I was a supervisor/manager for nine years in different industries. The most recent one was an Internet Service Provider (ISP) where the job was very high stress, most times very high paced as well. We provided services... 
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Khair, InshaAllah

The scene: a woman searching for her broken necklace… Aisha narrates, “When Allah’s Apostle had finished his Ghazwa (battle) and returned and we approached Madinah, Allah’s Messenger ordered to proceed at night. When the army was ordered to resume the homeward journey, I got up and walked... 
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Interview with a Second Wife

I’ve requested a few times for muslim sisters in polygamous marriages to approach me for an interview. I was delighted when I received an email from this sister and learned more about her story. Formerly a single mother and with no intentions of entering into a marriage like this she has become... 
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One wife, Two wife, Three wife, Four.

The much debated, much misunderstood, much hated 4 wives issue. Let’s start with the ayah (verse of the Qur’an) that gives muslim men the right to marry up to 4 women. We find it in the 4th Surah/Chapter and it is the 3rd Ayah/Verse: “And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards... 
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The problem with culture

We all know the story: An american (or insert other nationality) woman becomes a muslim, seeks a religious mate, they talk about marriage and make plans, he talks to his family and it all falls apart. Of course the story goes the other way too but let’s make it this way for simplicity sake. But... 
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Finding Mr. Right

Assalaamu Alaikum wa Ramatullahi wa Barakatuh I know how dismal the whole marriage prospects can be for us single sisters! It can be slim pickins out there! I have had many negative experiences attempting to find Mr. Right. I try (not very hard though) to be patient and not be so desperate that I will... 
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Love and Marriage

What is Love anyway? There are endless amounts of philosophical and poetic definitions of Love, but for the sake of clarity lets define it by the book. From Dictionary.com the first of 28 definitions and uses for the word Love: love (noun) a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. From... 
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